How Not to Finish Too Fast – A Guide to Preventing Premature Ejaculation

The question of how not to finish too fast is one of the most common and troubling questions men ask themselves. The feeling of losing control at an intimate moment – and the frustration that comes with it (both for them and their partner) – can seriously harm self-confidence, relationship intimacy, and overall quality of life.

If you're dealing with this, you're not alone. It's one of the most common sexual issues among men, and estimates suggest that one in three to four men will experience it at some point in their lives (a prevalence of about 20–30%, and up to 40% in some studies).

Premature ejaculation does not indicate any flaw in your masculinity. It's a medical and psychological condition with identifiable causes – and, more importantly, many solutions. The key is to stop feeling ashamed, understand the mechanism, and start applying proven techniques and personalized solutions rather than one-size-fits-all fixes. First, let's understand what premature ejaculation actually is.

What Is Premature Ejaculation?

Before rushing to find solutions, it's important to define the problem precisely. Premature ejaculation – also called rapid ejaculation – is not just a one-time issue after a long dry spell. The clinical definition (according to the ISSM) refers to a consistent, ongoing condition in which the following key criteria are met: ejaculation occurs always or almost always before or within about one minute of penetration (for primary premature ejaculation), or within about three minutes. The man feels unable to delay or control ejaculation once arousal reaches a certain level, and this causes significant frustration, anxiety, embarrassment, and avoidance of sexual intimacy.

Types of Premature Ejaculation

Primary premature ejaculation – present from the very beginning, since the first sexual experiences.

Acquired premature ejaculation – develops later in life after a period of normal sexual function.

The definition mainly refers to vaginal intercourse, but the same principles apply to same-sex relationships or other forms of intimacy. Understanding the type and cause of the problem is the first step toward finding the right personalized solution.

Causes Of Premature Ejaculation

The question "how not to finish too fast" starts with understanding why it happens. Usually, it's not one single factor but a complex mix of psychological and biological causes.

Psychological Factors

In many cases – especially in primary premature ejaculation – the brain has been conditioned to respond quickly. Early sexual experiences (often masturbation), done hastily, secretly, and with fear of being caught, taught the brain that "fast" equals "safe and effective."

Another major factor is performance anxiety – a classic vicious cycle. After experiencing premature ejaculation once, men approach the next time with intense pressure that it might happen again. That stress overstimulates the nervous system, accelerating ejaculation – thus fulfilling and reinforcing the anxiety.

General life stress – from work, finances, or anxiety – also makes it hard to stay calm and present in intimate moments. Unresolved relationship issues or emotional distance can also manifest physically.

Biological And Physical Factors

Hypersensitivity – Some men are simply born with higher natural sensitivity in the penile skin. Even mild stimulation can quickly trigger arousal and reach the point of no return.

Neurological issues – Ejaculation is controlled by the central nervous system. An imbalance in brain neurotransmitters – especially low serotonin levels – is directly linked to shorter ejaculation times.

In cases of acquired premature ejaculation, the issue may stem from prostate inflammation or urethral irritation, which heighten sensitivity. Hormonal imbalances (for example, thyroid disorders) can also play a role.

So, How Not To Finish Too Fast?

The answer isn't one magic fix – it's about adopting a combination of tools, techniques, and mindset shifts. Behavioral techniques usually require 4–12 weeks of consistent training to show improvement, and effectiveness varies between individuals. It's best to try and combine several of the following methods.

Behavioral Techniques for Control Training

These are the most important techniques. They require practice, patience, and persistence, but they allow you to retrain your body's response.

Stop-Start Technique – a classic method. Begin sexual activity (alone or with a partner). When you feel close to ejaculation, stop all stimulation completely. Take a deep breath, relax, and let the feeling of urgency fade (it usually passes within 15–30 seconds). Once the sensation has significantly decreased, resume stimulation, repeat this process 3–4 times in one session. On the final round, allow yourself to ejaculate. The goal is to train your mind and body to reach a high level of arousal without ejaculating – reinforcing that control is in your hands.

Squeeze Technique – A variation of the previous technique – during the pause, gently but firmly squeeze the base of the penis or just below the glans for several seconds until the urge decreases.

Mindful Masturbation – Use masturbation as a self-training session. Masturbate slowly, practice stop-start, and learn to identify and stop just before the "point of no return."

Physical Solutions

Using a condom (especially delay condoms) – reduces sensitivity. Some have mild numbing agents that help extend time before ejaculation.

Strengthening pelvic-floor muscles (Kegel exercises) – tighten the muscles you use to stop urination for 3–5 seconds, then relax. Repeat 10–15 times, 3 times daily. Stronger muscles improve control over ejaculation reflexes.

Changing positions – positions where the man lies on his back (e.g., partner on top) often allow better control and less stimulation.

Mental and Emotional Tools

Deep breathing and mindfulness – instead of thinking "I'm about to finish," focus on slow, deep breaths and bodily sensations. This calms the nervous system and slows things down.

Open communication – talk honestly with your partner. The pressure often comes from fear of disappointment. An open conversation lowers anxiety and promotes teamwork in practice.

Expand your definition of sex – focus more on touch, foreplay, and oral pleasure. When your partner is already satisfied, your performance pressure decreases – which ironically helps you last longer.

Medications and Medical Treatment

Sprays and creams with mild anesthetics – can be applied to the glans 10–15 minutes before activity. Use only a small amount and wash before intercourse to avoid numbing your partner.

Medical treatment (prescription only) – a doctor will first rule out physical issues such as prostatitis and may prescribe medications, often antidepressants that have a side effect of delaying ejaculation. The doctor will tailor the type and dosage to your specific needs.

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Authored By - Dr. Shlomo Sadoun

A pioneering pharma entrepreneur with over two decades of experience in the health and biotechnology sectors. Operating at the intersection of science, innovation, and a global vision, leading the development of advanced medical solutions with a real impact on patients’ lives.